Guy Baldwin (1)
Autor/a de Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice
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Obres de Guy Baldwin
Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice (1656) 95 exemplars
The Leather Contest Guide: A Handbook for Promoters, Contestants, Judges and Titleholders (1991) 23 exemplars
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A speech Baldwin gave at Leather Leadership Conference 6, 04-14-2002. A very provocative discussion of old guard and new guard practices in s/m.
This book is so obviously a collection of articles written for publication as columns, that there is nothing except the very umbrella topic of "things leather" tying it together thematically. I found it to be a disparate hodgepodge with no unifying theme, and with very little of use to me personally in re S/M, D/s, or anything else pervy. For this reason I rate it very low for myself (only 2 stars), but it mMight be useful food for thought for someone either new to the scene, or who has not hitherto given much thought to kinky interactions or lifestyle issues.… (més)
While at a fetish event, a book seller and a customer both highly recommended this book. I found it to be minimally helpful. very little in the book resonated with my opinions about submission, and I found the writing style aggravating.
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While there is a dearth of similar books written more recently, even though the information is dated, "Ties that Bind" makes a valuable resource for those wanting to gain a better understanding of the scene if writing about it. Especially if you're trying for a more realistic picture rather than the stereotypical fantasy version.
One of the biggest lightbulb moments for me was understanding participants not simply as Dom and sub but a combination of the three types:Dominant / Vanilla / Submissive
Sadist / Vanilla / Masochist
Agressive / Neutral / PassiveThis is a good way to explain the Pushy Bottom so often characterised in m/m romances, but it also demonstrates the different Tops that may be around and also the relationship the couple will have.Sterotypical Top and bottoms are a combination of all on the left or all on the right, but There is also a great section on how to make relationship triads/menages work although he admits that the effort to keep them stable can be exhausting. This bit puts it well:Another pertinent part of this chapter is true for all relationships:He also feels that the imbalance between the number of Tops and bottoms in reality (figures of 10 to 15:1 quoted) are because:Being a qualified psychotherapist, Baldwin has seen people who have been adversely affected (both physically and mentally by the scene). While there is the typical submissive who has been abused by greedy, insensitive Tops, he is just as concerned by the number of Tops burnt out by "castrating" bottoms, who use passive aggressiveness to deal their own form of damage.
Guy believes that the Top's needs are often not met, discussed or examined. He portrays the way a submissive can be encouraged by steady escalation of sensation to reach his endorphin high. But what about the Top in all this? He maintains that As stated at the beginning of this review, the material within is dated. According to Baldwin in a paper addressed to The Los Angeles Leather Weekend in 2004 and posted on The Palm Springs Gay Mens Health site: http://www.psgaymenshealth.com/leather_radsex1.htm Old Guard is leather is dead. To Baldwin, this is a natural progression as it evolved from the experiences of the men who created it. The rigid protocols (many of which stemmed from their military background) became irrelevant. However, the need for a group to feel safe where the core values can be expressed will never disappear.
Reading books like "The Ties that Bind" and text of his recent lectures show that despite the changes, men (and society) need to understand the benefits (apart from the great sex) that can result from exploring (and supporting others as they explore) the true nature of themselves.
Integrated honesty was one term that resonated.
Baldwin also stresses that men with a kink shouldn't deny this aspect of their personality and likens denial to the damage caused by not admitting your sexuality: "...while he continues to deny himself that kink, he has one part of himself at war with the rest and can never therefore be a fully integrated person. All the parts of oneself should fit together and mesh smoothly with all the other parts. No part of the self is exiled. All parts of the self must welcome all the other parts and none of the parts of the self are at war with the other parts."… (més)