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Erica Garza

Autor/a de Getting Off: One Woman's Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction

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Getting Off: One Woman's Journey Through Sex and… de Erica Garza
While persons who are not affected by sex addiction can find sex to be sating, loving, and wholesome, a sex addict can find emptiness at the end, merely a road trodded to fill a hole, metaphorically and physically speaking, no pun intended.

At thirty years old, at twenty-four, even at twelve, it was impossible for me to think about sexual pleasure without immediately feeling shame. I felt bad about the type of porn I watched. I felt bad sleeping with people I didn’t like. I felt bad because of the thoughts I feasted on when I was having sex with people I genuinely loved. For as far back as I can remember this is just the way it was. My sexual habits were sick and shameful. My thoughts were sick and shameful. I was sick and shameful.


Myself, I'm reserved when divulging my sex life, but Garza is not, which is for the better in this book. Just like seeing Steve McQueen's excellent film "Shame", one quickly reads through this book and knows that its contents are not sexually arousing but symptoms of what occurs in Garza's life. Bar the start of this book, it is chronologically written. As such, her growing up, the introduction of Internet that projects her extremely quickly into hypersexuality, her first relationships, her short sentences that describes self-damaging behaviours, it all bears the hallmarks of simplistically describing situations that have happened, á la Lisa Carver in her diaries.

When other addicts shared about porn addiction, my ears always perked up. Porn kept us from engaging with the world. Porn distorted our perception, not just of sex, but of everything. Something so simple, like standing in an elevator with other people, or brushing up against another body on the subway, or exchanging money with a supermarket clerk—anything really—could quickly be turned into a pornographic scene by our trained, overstimulated minds. We felt numb to touch and always craved more of it. We were impatient and disinterested with a situation unless it was leading to sex. We were never really satisfied with the act of sex—it could always be better—and when it was over, we quickly wanted to discard the person. Their use was diminished. Our use was diminished.


Her descriptions of being a sex addict leaves me with the sense of what I felt when watching "Shame" for the first time. Still, this is not a hopeless nor a shocker of a book. It's a description of a life—which has yet to reach midlife—and the haunts that come with sex addiction. This is a very easy read, even though the stories affected me; at times, I was a little jolted, but mostly I kept hoping for Garza to feel a lot better in the end; naturally this is something that can be felt for every human being.… (més)
 
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pivic | Hi ha 1 ressenya més | Mar 23, 2020 |
Getting Off: One Woman's Journey Through Sex and… de Erica Garza
This book is very difficult to read. It is honest, true, harsh, heartbreaking and the author was very brave to share her story. It is a well-written book, But what I found uneasy or disturbing was that the content is very upsetting. She just keeps hurting herself. The pain is very devastating. Perhaps writing the book has helped her more than anything else.

*eARC Netgalley*
 
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Critterbee | Hi ha 1 ressenya més | Apr 16, 2018 |
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