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Well-known psychotherapist Dr. Harriet Learner has helped millions of women with relationship problems. Women around the world have benefited from Lerner's guidance in the bestselling series Dance of Anger, Dance of Intimacy, Dance of Deception. In her monthly column, Good Advice, which appears in mostra'n més New Woman magazine, the author gives practical answers to the big and little questions of life. In Life Preservers: Staying Afloat in Love and Life (1996) the reader who has read too many self-help books and is still not perfect is given a clear plan of action to cut through confusion. Other titles by Lerner include Women in Therapy: Devaluation, Anger, Aggression, Depression, Self-Sacrifice, Mothering, Mother Blaming, Self Betrayal, Sex-Role Stereotypes, Dependency, Work and Success, Inhibitions, and The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life. The author has also written a children's book, What's So Terrible About Swallowing an Appleseed , that examines the sister relationship and honesty. In addition, Lerner has created a series of self-help audio cassettes. Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist at the Menninger Clinic in Topeka, Kans. and frequent workshop leader, lecturer, and consultant. She is married and the mother of two sons. (Bowker Author Biography) mostra'n menys
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Obres de Harriet Lerner

Women in Therapy (1989) 105 exemplars
The Dance of Anger [abridged] (2004) 4 exemplars
Lezioni di voce (2004) 2 exemplars
Insieme con tenerezza (1990) 1 exemplars
Korku Dansi (2016) 1 exemplars
Sorry, not sorry 1 exemplars

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Nom oficial
Lerner, Harriet Goldhor
Data de naixement
1944-11-30
Gènere
female
Nacionalitat
USA
País (per posar en el mapa)
USA
Lloc de naixement
Brooklyn, New York, USA
Llocs de residència
Madison, Wisconsin, USA
Delhi, India
San Francisco, California, USA
Topeka, Kansas, USA
Lawrence, Kansas, USA
Educació
University of Wisconsin
Teachers College, Columbia University (MA ∙ Educational psychology)
City University of New York (PhD ∙ clinical psychology )
Professions
Clinical psychologist
Staff psychologist, Menninger Clinic
Faculty, Supervisor, Karl Menninger School of Psychiatry
children's book author
Relacions
Lerner, Ben (son)
Goldhor, Susan (sister, co-author)
Premis i honors
Kansas Distinguished Award for Literature (1998)
Biografia breu
Harriet Lerner was born in Brooklyn, New York. She is a clinical psychologist best known for her contributions to family and feminist theory and therapy,and for her many bestselling psychology books written for a general audience. From 1972 to 2001, she was a staff psychologist at the Menninger Clinic in Topeka, Kansas, and a faculty member and supervisor at the Karl Menninger School of Psychiatry. During this time she published extensively on the psychology of women and family relationships, revising traditional psychoanalytic concepts to reflect feminist and family systems perspectives. Women in Therapy is a compilation of her professional publications related to the psychology of women. Her 1985 book The Dance of Anger has been translated into more than 35 foreign languages and was re-issued in a revised edition in 2005. In addition, she has written a children’s book with her sister, Susan Goldhor, Franny B. Kranny, There’s a Bird in Your Hair! (2001).

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A gem of a read especially for any woman who has ever been told, "You shouldn't feel that way!"

"Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to. Our anger may be a message that we are being hurt, that our rights are being violated, that our needs or wants are not being adequately met, or simply that something is not right. Our anger may tell us that we are not addressing an important emotional issue in our lives, or that too much of our self -- our beliefs, values, desires, or ambitions -- is being compromised in a relationship. Our anger may be a signal that we are doing more and giving more than we can comfortably do or give. Or our anger may warn us that others are doing too much for us, at the expense of our own competence and growth."

"The taboos against our feeling and expressing anger are so powerful that even knowing when we are angry is not a simple matter. When a woman shows her anger, she is likely to be dismissed as irrational or worse."

"Anger is inevitable when our lives consist of giving in and going along; when we assume responsibility for other people’s feelings and reactions; when we relinquish our primary responsibility to proceed with our own growth and ensure the quality of our own lives; when we behave as if having a relationship is more important than having a self."

"Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others."

"We are responsible for our own behavior. But we are not responsible for other people’s reactions; nor are they responsible for ours. Women often learn to reverse this order of things: We put our energy into taking responsibility for other people’s feelings, thoughts, and behavior and hand over to others responsibility for our own."

Lerner addresses the longstanding social constraints that inhibit women from understanding anger and using it as a positive tool to improve their most important relationships. Engaging writing and timeless wisdom. I only wish I'd read it when it first came out nearly 30 years ago.
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rebwaring | Hi ha 16 ressenyes més | Aug 14, 2023 |
Raise your hand if you grew up experiencing intensity, triangles, over- (or under) functioning, distancing, and cut offs in your family of origin. Right, me too.

Thankfully, Harriet Lerner knows a lot about these very human patterns AND compassionately defines each as she explains how to find the way forward when we are stuck or sucked into them.

I copied many passages into my journal to return to later. I now have the vocabulary and example scripts I didn't know existed before. With more and more self-awareness and the words Lerner suggests I feel more able begin broaching difficult terrain.

"The challenge of conversation is not just in being our self but in choosing our self, since what we call the self is constantly reinvented through interactions with others. The self is always under construction. ... Our conversations invent us. Through our speech and our silence, we become smaller or larger selves. Through our speech and our silence, we diminish or enhance the other person, and we narrow or expand the possibilities between us. How we use our voice determines the quality of our relationships, who we are in the world, and what the world can be and might become." (239)
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rebwaring | Hi ha 2 ressenyes més | Aug 14, 2023 |
Once again, reading books enhances my life and shifts my thinking. The wisdom of Harriet Lerner found in her amazing book [b:The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships|31312|The Dance Of Anger A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships|Harriet Lerner|http://images.gr-assets.com/books/1388261597s/31312.jpg|31603] continues in this title. I've copied many passages into my journal as I gather the understanding and vocabulary to decipher more of the first family issues, relationship triangles, overfunctioning/underfunctioning dynamics I am part of.

I would have given it a 5, but design matters. It's time for an updated edition. When that happens, I'll buy a copy for my library.
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rebwaring | Hi ha 7 ressenyes més | Aug 14, 2023 |
I think this book should be required reading for everyone. The book is very enlightening on relationship dynamics and how to manage your emotions when things don't turn out like you would expect when you are the apologizer as well as when you receive a non-apology or no apology at all. I can't recommend this enough.
 
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RaggedyMe | Hi ha 5 ressenyes més | Aug 12, 2023 |

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Obres
44
Membres
4,738
Popularitat
#5,313
Valoració
3.8
Ressenyes
69
ISBN
194
Llengües
14
Preferit
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