Chuck Milian

The only thing good about this book is that is has some sensible advice re physical boundaries when dating. From the outset it is clearly a male perspective (although I'm surprised it is a Pastors perspective.) There are many sweeping generalisations that fail to take into account that every person is different and that you cannot put people into boxes. The authors assertion that if everyone follows his "method" no one will get hurt is bold but definitely untrue. The detailed analysis of every step of a relationship forming is clinical, cold and unromantic. Although scripture is quoted throughout I couldn't see much correlation between the content and scripture. The author frequently suggests that his method is also God's method but I think this is a little presumptive.

The author encourages Christian women to consider arranging "dates" with a man they like, this is a shame as it just encourages men to be lazy and starts to reverse the traditional Biblical roles.
But by far the worst suggestion, is that whilst someone is "dating" a person at level 2 (physical contact) they can also pursue several other people at level 1 (group setting.) I can almost guarantee that no women would sign up to that...it just encourages "Christian" men to think it is acceptable to "play the field" and go around making eyes/being over friendly with many girls as they selfishly pursue their own agenda. There are enough guys doing this already without a Pastors endorsement and of course people (most likely the girls) will get hurt if guys behave like this. Just because they are upfront and honest about it doesn't make it acceptable; honestly how many women want to date a guy who is also dating other people regardless of the "level"....why not one at a time and if it doesn't work out then consider someone else.

Maybe this method worked for the author but I doubt it will be particularly helpful for many others. Quite disappointed as I thought this would be a good read. Interesting that the 5 star reviews are all from men ....… (més)