50-Somethings talk about everything
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I especially enjoy those little old forgotten grave yards that we find here and there around where I live. My kids have never forgotten when I took them and a huge bag of popcorn to a tiny grave yard on the river, so we could see fireworks being set off by a town downriver a bit. That one is on their list of weird things mom did, along with lunar eclipse nights... and lets picnic in the yard to see what the spirit in the house gets up to while we are out there nights...
Just a note, all of these activities involved popcorn.
BTW, popcorn is food of the Gods.
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Who could think that any activity involving popcorn was weird? If one has popcorn, all is right with the world!
I have wanted to go to Pere Lachaise every time I have gone to Paris (not that many times, but I still have wanted to go there!) and never have been able to get traveling companions to go with me. Next time I am going by myself.
I remember the first time I ever saw graves with photos of the deceased on them when I was in Moscow. It looked like it had been a beautiful cemetery that had been let go, but many of the photos were on a sort of ceramic surface and were intact.
Chicago does have some beautiful cemeteries, too, but never thought of walking through them--good idea!
One day when my boys were younger, they had a day off school, so I took off work and let each of them choose a place to visit. One chose the Science Center, one chose a MetroLink ride, and one chose to wander through Bellefontaine Cemetery in St. Louis, where a lot of famous St. Louisans are buried. We had a great time there, and the crowning glory for 3 young boys was a large family monument we saw on the way out: "BOOGHER."
sorry, you don't survive raising boys without this kind of humor...
Might have to go with Wellington.
As to raising boys, I wish I was more computer literate so I could post something my brother sent to me in an e-mail entitled: Why boys need parents.
If you "google" that title, you will find variations of it. I was in tears laughing.
I'm not a member but I have visited the site from time to time.
>17 mckait:: Kath, there is always a pile of "must reads". Today I found myself reading four different books and wanting to finish all of them. Needless to say, it might take a day or two.
Ditto the rofl on why boys need parents. Not that we ever have that much control over them once they've made their mind up to do mischief.
Complete control over children (especially teenagers) is an illusion. We can make some important influences though.
I write this as my 15 year "video-gamer" works very diligently (voluntarily) trying to perfect a piece by Chopin. The other a 13 year old plays a new video game but has the reading of Flowers for Algernon on his fun-things to do list for the day.
The example of parents can make a difference.
A Happy Mom's Day to all you Mom's out there!
#21, #19...Somehow boys do grow up to become productive adults, although some do revert to childhood behaviors now & then:))
Each classroom has a phone ( never used to ) and parents are free to call the school.. but they think they can't survive without those things for the few hours they are in school. They should never have been allowed to have them in school to begin with.
The kids are running things these days...and their parents.
Four years in high school and my parents never called me once. Of course, that was before cells - how could they call? And they never had a good reason to, either. But now? Suddenly parents need to be in touch with their kids 5 or 6 times a day.
I am SICK of cellphones. And, no, I don't have one.
Having the parents acting like children is even worse. It's bad enough that people expect their kids to be magically educated at school without putting forth any effort at home. ( Don't get ME started on that one.. lol ... I taught my own kids to read, and they did their own homework.. etc)
Last year I remember a parent indignantly telling me that the Principal took away her son's cell phone because he had it on when he wasn't supposed to. I kept my mouth shut.
Like any rule, easily ignored, difficult to enforce. The school board is going to address the issue. I think its ridiculous. Too many kids driving to school while we still pay for the bus, cell phones in school are not necessary. One local district provides every single child with a laptop. !!!
Seriously.. why can't kids use a pencil these days. I know for a fact they still sell them. Progress is one thing. Too much dependence on these things are just not good.
The kids aren't supposed to have their cell phones on, but on the other hand, we are not supposed to take them from them.
There's also another issue - kids taking pictures with them or video - and these appearing on Utube. The kids will deliberately provoke a teacher and then film them pitching a fit. This happened to a friend/colleague of mine, and it was a local scandal. Nothing happened, though, of course. They didn't change any rules.
I have mixed feelings on this. I know of at least one school violence incident where the initial call for help came from a student cell phone . . . just something to ponder in this era of terrorism, Columbine, etc. (It's almost enough to make you scared to send your kid to school.)
The School cell phone business I think is a microcosm of a much larger (more dangerous) reality. For example people texting while driving trains and cars.
It's a Brave New World...
I've groused about cell phones here before... :-)
My student workers (college level) know perfectly well that they are not allowed to use their cell phones while at work (except for genuine emergencies) but I still catch them at it now and then. At least they've gotten better about turning down the ring, and answering with "I can't talk, I'm at work," which I feel is better than having the dang things keep ringing.
Columbine, etc... yes, it's a fine line. I'm in Denver, and remember well having the news about Columbine coming in while at work (college Financial Aid/Scholarship office); some of our student workers at the time had graduated from Columbine just the spring before. Our campus emergency system is set up to notify people of actual emergencies via cell phone, email, or office phone. None of the above are perfect.
But very little cell phone use is "emergency" based. I can't understand why I see so many people walking in the park in the evening with cell phones glued to their ears. Not looking around, not seeing the sunset, just nattering along. (Reminds me of Yoda chastizing Luke in 'The Empire Strikes Back' - "Never his mind on *where* he is! *What* he is doing!" )
I actually do own a cell phone; I was given one for my birthday a couple of months back, but other than testing it haven't used it yet. It's for things like letting my ride know that the commuter train is experiencing difficulties, and I'll be a while.
My son graduated last year, and that district allowed cell phones, but they had to be turned off during class. I'm pretty sure it wasn't enforced. And because of widespread cheating, they must be turned off and turned into the teacher during the state exams. Teachers also are not allowed to have their cell phones in the room during the state tests.
Half the time I don't even know where my cell phone is...
and tymfos.. I just don't buy it ... sometimes we just have to take a leap of faith... those occurrences are rare...
. There is almost always at least a $5 off $35 coupon available. Almost all of the books I have listed in my Oak Hill School library were purchased there. I can't afford retail. Ha.
I think there have been two fatalities from school shootings here in Canada (someone correct me if I'm wrong - I know there have been other homicides by other means) which may just reflect our stronger gun laws, but in any case, I don't see why the whole system needs to be geared to the miniscule chance that someone might get murdered in school. We need to have a sense of proportion about this.
My bigger beef with cell phones is talking while driving. Really, what could be so important to yak on the phone while only half paying attention to the road?
No cell phones in school period. Anyone found with one should have been made to call a parent to let them know it was being confiscated due to use during school, and that they had to come and get it.
we are a nation gone mad with no boundaries set for our young people..
many of whom have been raised with a huge feeling of entitlement. BAH!
I'm also astonished by the rudeness of mobile phone users. In the supermarket you will often see a customer talking on her mobile (it is usually women) while her shopping is being processed, totally blanking the assistant. Although the assistant probably doesn't want to chat to the customer I'm sure he/she would like her existence to be acknowledged.
I work in a school, as a technician, and I refuse to talk to students (or teachers) who have their mp3 player headphones in.
When I was called for jury duty a couple of years ago, the door of the courtroom had a big "no cellphones" sign. You would not believe how people complained. "What if there's an emergency?" What constitutes an emergency? If the kid misses his/her bus, s/he can wait till you're out of court to get picked up. Must all life accommodate the fear that once-in-a-lifetime emergencies will occur during that hour or two of no cell phone contact?
I do believe cell phones are adding to the growing rudeness - when they first came on the scene people would excuse themselves and go to a quiet spot. Now it's blah, blah, blah, right out in the open. I have been tempted to say something about the conversation when they hang up, but I was brought up to be polite.
I agree - what is so all important that you need to have them on you at all times? I think people consider consulting their spouse from the grocery store about whether to buy a frozen pizza an emergency.
The Cell-Phone is certainly furthering our "very risk adverse society." Some people fear anything going wrong with someone they are not connected to via cell phone. This is particularity true with parents and children I think. I'm not sure why this is, perhaps having news broadcasts 24/7 has made us a bit narcotic.
I also think people don't plan anymore (aka. consulting at the grocery store with your cell phone). Working issues on the fly (via cell) is becoming the norm. Maybe people feel they don't have enough time. Time manageress is much more complex then when we grew up.
I'm optimist, but I don't think this is going to change. It's a very interesting (with much concern) future we live in.
My son has special needs, and I do try to remain reachable when he's not with me as emergencies are fairly common with him; and if he were to be stuck on his own somewhere --anywhere -- it would be downright dangerous for him.
As for school, I think the policy of having to leave the phone at the office during school hours should be sufficient control. Some families do need to "check in" after school as to plans. Life is, indeed, much more complex than it used to be, IMHO. :)
I was at a funeral a few years ago, and not one but two phones went off. The pastor had to stop the eulogy to tell people to turn them off out of respect to the departed.
We eat dinner every week w/ another couple and the one of the women (over 60 yrs old) constantly has her cell w/all the fancy apps...checking basketball scores, pulling up the latest pics of her grandson, checking Facebook,etc. We counted one night...she had it out 8 times, either taking a call or making one. I think it's rude when there are people right there w/ you.
The post office here has a sign that they will not serve you if you are on your phone. I think every retail place ought to do so.
And there really is no reason for kids to be able to take calls during class time. I promise, if your kid is where he/she is supposed to be in the building, someone can find them if there is a true emergency.
I won't say I never use mine in public, but I rarely do.
A year or two ago, not far from where I live, a bicyclist was killed by a teen who was texting while driving. And still there is much argument over laws to restrict texting while driving! Fortunately, at least teens are now resticted from this very risky behavior.
Cell phones in stores, while being assisted or checking out, is just the high of rudeness. Unfortunately good manners can't be legislated. Don't get me started on how LOUD some people feel they need to talk on a cell!